tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8766973.post1271816940036353404..comments2023-07-23T07:47:42.360-05:00Comments on Life As I Know It...: Hard Lessons to Learn About One's SelfFeedingYourMindhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16542158699816108523noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8766973.post-60014215293419334782008-01-01T22:32:00.000-06:002008-01-01T22:32:00.000-06:00Anonymous: Thank you for the comment (whoever you ...Anonymous: Thank you for the comment (whoever you are). And based on what I can know about you from it, I'm humbled by it. <BR/><BR/>You're a good person for leaving it. It takes a loving person to do such a deed.<BR/><BR/>Blessings!FeedingYourMindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16542158699816108523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8766973.post-8657322784261672282008-01-01T21:51:00.000-06:002008-01-01T21:51:00.000-06:00One thing I admire about your entries is your tota...One thing I admire about your entries is your total and complete honesty. You have a lot of guts to share to us what "we all" just think about. It is amazing the love that you have not only for those you know well but also for those you don't know as well. Not too many people can love the way you do. You are like christ....totally amazing.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8766973.post-33097278178393346802008-01-01T20:26:00.000-06:002008-01-01T20:26:00.000-06:00Tonight I watched an Oprah episode which aired bac...Tonight I watched an Oprah episode which aired back on what I believe was December 4th. It was a follow-up episode to the first episode containing Elizabth Gilbert, the best-selling author of what is apparently an AMAZING book that has been in the Top Sellers for MANY weeks--"Eat, Pray, Love." <BR/><BR/>Gilbert seems like such an amazingly intelligent and gentle soul. She makes me smile in her pleasant happiness and she's one of those just simple and naturally beautiful women! As Oprah has spoken with her in this episode (as well as the last one) I can't help but think what a wise woman she is. <BR/><BR/>One point in the episode I watched today made me think of this blog entry. Gilbert was commenting on the word "selfish." She explained that she learned that in the Mandarin Chinese there are two words for "selfish." One means "doing that which is beneficial to you" and the other means "hoarding, greedy, and cruel". She mentioned how it is so unfortunate that in the English language we've come to combine the two into our interpretation and settled the meaning of "selfish" into the latter of the two. <BR/><BR/>The more I thought about this, the more I agreed. Why is it that things that are selfish are merely thought of as "cruel" or "greedy"? Is one being cruel to others by taking time for him/herself to benefit his/her mental health? One should be able to be selfish in ways that are beneficial to his/herself and it not be thought of as a "bad" selfish, because it is not an action of cruelty or greed.<BR/><BR/>Just some thoughts...FeedingYourMindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16542158699816108523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8766973.post-75580992907768543062008-01-01T17:28:00.000-06:002008-01-01T17:28:00.000-06:00Melody: Yes, yes dating does suck. I hate the fak...Melody: Yes, yes dating does suck. I hate the fakeness and constant sense of needing to impress and worry about how it all came off that can oh-so-often occur.<BR/><BR/>I think it's good to hear the comments you shared coming from you. It's nice to hear that even as a married person, our desire for independence can be something that we still find ourselves needing to work on. I mean that can come off as sounding like it's hopeless (in that the struggle might seem like it never goes away), but to me I see it as something that reminds me that it's possibly to still struggle with a sense of independence, but to still fall in love and get married and be happy even with the struggle being there.<BR/><BR/><BR/>Jules: Thank you; it was good to be back. I'm glad I could write on something you're passionate about, as I always look forward to some words shared by you. As for the "sneak peek"--it's good to know I'm not alone. =)<BR/><BR/>I anticipate your "long comment."FeedingYourMindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16542158699816108523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8766973.post-43388454309029963412007-12-31T16:02:00.000-06:002007-12-31T16:02:00.000-06:00glad to have you back. i've already started quite ...glad to have you back. i've already started quite a long comment. that'll come later. needs to be a little more thought-out... this is a topic about which i'm very passionate! :)<BR/><BR/>but, i'll give you a sneak peek - you and i think very, very similarly.Juliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00305754302915476649noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8766973.post-52577733014998550912007-12-31T09:49:00.000-06:002007-12-31T09:49:00.000-06:00Dating sucks. It does. The end. But when you date ...Dating sucks. It does. The end. But when you date someone that you can really see yourself marrying one day, it is VERY hard to let go of the independence that you have. I still struggle with that. It is very hard to balance your friendships with a serious relationship as well. It is possible...but hard. Basically what I am saying is that you will eventually have to make sacrifices. They aren't all bad but just hard to let go of. <BR/>And it is good to "analyze." Be picky! This is the rest of your life! :)Melodyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11043148318826825124noreply@blogger.com