tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8766973.post2464142719781986864..comments2023-07-23T07:47:42.360-05:00Comments on Life As I Know It...: When We Are GrievingFeedingYourMindhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16542158699816108523noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8766973.post-86402032620178047322007-10-26T21:28:00.000-05:002007-10-26T21:28:00.000-05:00Belinda: Thank you so much for what you shared. I...Belinda: Thank you so much for what you shared. I believe you have brought up some GREAT points.<BR/><BR/>First, I think you are exactly right when you say "people would've been worried if I'd lost 75 lbs." Yep. I think the thing with when we gain weight is no one wants to comment on it. I think we are typically as quick to notice when we or others gain weight rather rapidly, but none of us want to acknowledge it and express the worry that we would had it been the same weight amount that was lost. <BR/><BR/>Isn't it interesting how often we feel others are hurting or in need and we wait for them to say something or to ask for help? <BR/><BR/>To often we worry about burdening others, when in actuality, I think we'd be helping more than we think by TAKING action, rather than expecting them to ask for it.<BR/><BR/>As for the "man of the house" I can admit I've been guilty of saying that to young men before, but at the same time when I say it I think to myself how weird it seems to be calling someone so young a "man"...you're right, they are no more a man at that age then, as they were before the passing occurred...why should that have changed?<BR/><BR/>Your shortest sentence in your comment is what is the most important for us all to remember when considering grieving..."People grieve in different ways." Amen.FeedingYourMindhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16542158699816108523noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8766973.post-4518569405932723322007-10-25T16:22:00.000-05:002007-10-25T16:22:00.000-05:00I remember when my husband was killed in 1989. I'...I remember when my husband was killed in 1989. I've never been a thin person, but I gained 75 lbs. When I finally begged for help, the response I got was "we thought you were doing so well." I think people would've been worried if I'd lost 75 lbs. People grieve in different ways. Also, don't tell a kid (my 11-yr. old son) that he's the "man of the house." No, he's not. There is no man of the house anymore. This is way too much of a responsibility to put on a child. Sadly, I was the only adult left in the house.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com