Tuesday, July 18, 2006

For the Twentysomethings...

I want to share a passage from a book I started reading this evening called Quarterlife Crisis: The Unique Challenges of Life in Your Twenties by Alexandra Robbins & Abby Wilner.

Since many of my readers are "twentysomethings" like myself, I figure this is something worth sharing. You just might be able to relate... ;)

The most widespread, frightening, and quite possibly the most difficult manifestation of the quarterlife crisis is a feeling that can creep up on a twentysomething whether he is unemployed, living at home, and friendless, or in an interesting job, with a great apartment, and dozens of buddies. Regardless of their levels of self-esteem, confidence, and overall well-being, twentysomethings are particularly vulnerable to doubts. They doubt their decisions, their abilities, their readiness, their past, present, and future…but most of all, they doubt themselves. The twenties comprise a period of intense questioning—of introspection and self-development that young adults often feel they are not ready for. The questions can range from seemingly trivial choices—“Should I really have spent $100 to join that fantasy baseball leave?”—to irrefutably mammoth decisions—“When is the right time for me to start a family?” It is healthy, of course, for people to question themselves some; an occasional self-assessment or life inventory is a natural part of the questioning becomes constant and the barrage of doubts never seems to cease, twentysomethings can feel as if it is hard to catch their breath, as if they are spiraling downward. Many times the doubts increase because twentysomethings think it is abnormal to have them in the first place. No one talks about having doubts at this age, so when twentysomethings do find that they are continuously questioning themselves, they think something is wrong with them (p. 10).

1 comment:

Amanda B. said...

So true.